Do you trust your gut? I mean, like REALLY. When you feel those sharp intuitive pangs, do you stop and think what they may mean? Life is so hectic, it’s tough to give ourselves the time we need sometimes. Our time is given in every direction except to the one most important– ourselves.
I’ve discovered the concept of synchronicity, and it’s so simple that you’ll want to start immediately. Intuitive synchronicity is the realization that your intuition and your innate purpose go hand in hand. It allowed me to realize that everything that happened in my life, good and bad, was purposeful.
There are no coincidences.
The good was just that. Good. Great, in fact. In some way, my spirit had aligned itself with what the universe had in store for me (or whatever higher power you place your faith in) and I was fulfilling my purpose and living it. I was true to my sense of self without even realizing it. However, the bad took some more effort to see the gifts it was giving me. In the moment, I couldn’t understand why things were going wrong.
Just figured it was life.
And it was…. just that.
But once I understood that those things had to happen to make way for something better that I hadn’t even mentally conceived? That was the holy grail. Hindsight was suddenly 20/20. Take your first steps to finding out how to clear out the mental clutter and realign with what it is that you want out of this life.
1. Allow your mental space to be cleared. Meditating or going for a walk without your headphones can be beneficial ways to get your mind to a calmer state. Clarity is easier to achieve when there are no distractions from the outside world, such as social media and toxic environments. Work this into your daily routine to get in habit, so it’s easier to get away to that mental space you created, among the hustle and bustle of life.
2. When you hear your inner voice nag at you, listen. Take the time to assess why. Ask yourself why that issue is coming up. Why do you feel this way? And how can you tend to it? If you have an immediate response that is rational and your true feeling, go with it. That voice is your identity. Don’t want to go to the party that your friends are begging you to go to? Instead you want to stay in and dine in after a long work week? Three words. Self-care isn’t selfish.
3. Cultivate some more patience. Cut off in traffic? Coworker pissed you off? Let it fall by the wayside. More patience allows you to stop before you react irrationally because emotional reactions are not well-thought out ones. It also allows your to have more spiritual balance. When you’re in a funk, it has the potential to poison your whole day. How you behave, think, and interact with yourself and others goes through that negative filter. Ever wonder why your morning would begin with a toothpaste stain on your favorite black shirt only to continue with one relentless thing after another? When you’re more patient with others, you will be more patient with yourself.
4. Don’t dwell on the negative. Your time is too precious to waste it bringing yourself down. It has happened, as that too shall pass. Meanwhile, do something to get out of the funk. Whatever puts you back into a better mood will change your day immediately. Even if you don’t feel like it, you’ll be surprised as to what coffee with a fun friend will do.
5. Trust the process. If don’t give your spirit a chance to lead for once, you’ll miss the chance to see where it could take you. Trusting the judgement and advice of others hasn’t fulfilled you, so how could you go wrong with choosing yourself?
Take a breath. Let the negativity from your surroundings fall away so you can tune in closer to your own voice. Hear what it is saying and take the steps to follow in that direction. No matter how small the action, if it feels real, it is. It’s you.
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